Dear Amy: I am over 60 years old and have known Sue for over 40 years.
Over the years, Sue has made some negative comments on some of my Facebook posts. For example, once I wrote that I'm sick. She called me to ask why I would put such a thing on FB. Another was a joke she did not think was funny.
Finally, I changed the privacy settings so she could not see my posts.
We both belong to a Facebook group of school alumni. In recent months she has criticized some of my comments to others in this group.
None of these remarks had anything to do with her. In one case, I made friends with an alumni who talked about his shyness when he discovered that my son is also shy. I did not give any further information. Sue tricked me into chatting about my son.
Sue refuses to stop teaching me, and I finally told her how angry I was with her intrusiveness and criticism.
I never told Sue ̵
It's clear to me that Facebook is not private, but are there any rules regarding the assessment of other people's posts?
– One Less Friend
Dear Sir or Madam: The rules for Facebook are the same rules that apply to all human interactions: Understand that everything you say can be used against you in court (or private) opinion.
Think of your FB alumni group as if you were all standing together at a cocktail party. Would you try to be shy with a friend and mention your son's similar challenges to the group? They would probably do it.
READ MORE: Has any e-mail you send been interpreted as rude? How to proceed »» 19659013] Would "Sue" chastise you in this regard before others (or at all) regarding your benevolent decision? She probably would not do that.
Social media can provide loving and compassionate friendliness – inspiring people to be courageous in their exchanges and to support their responses. Social media also encourages people to be talkative, disgusting and combative.
A wise person is just as discreet and aware in social media as in real life.
And then there is "Sue" They would not leave you alone and now you are no longer "friends" – in real life or online.
If you want to criticize them, do so privately.
Dear Amy: Cell phones allow us to make calls from any room in the house.
Although we have three bedrooms, two bathrooms, a kitchen, a den, and a living-dining room, my husband, without asking if I'm against it, makes personal calls in my presence. If he does that, I can not watch TV, call yourself, whatever.
I'm really not interested in hearing a page of his calls (or both sides). I asked him to call me away. It's just easier to move the phone to another room than to move the TV to another room.
Am I wrong not to like that? Can I say something to convince him to talk in another room? Please advise.
– I do not want to hear it
Dear Sir or Madam: A call in the presence of other people is one thing. (If you do this, it is polite to say, "Oh, this is Kevin from work, do you mind if I take it?") Then take your phone to a quiet place where you can sit on it Conversation can concentrate without worrying about others.
It is not justified to call in front of other people, especially in a big house where there are many places to sit. That's straight. Rude.
It's also difficult to focus on a phone conversation that has other noisy distractions. So why would your husband do this in front of the TV?
If your husband decides while you're both in the TV room, ask him first, "Hey darling, could you do that in the other room? ? "If he refuses, it would be right to turn up the sound of the television so you can continue to hear it.
Dear Amy: They gave "Befuddled" an idea of how they should share family property after their death.
I went through that and decided that things are just that: things. I do not let another person's greed ruin a relationship. It is not worth.
You never see a U-Haul looking for a hearse.
Dear Ann: Wise
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