Becca Kufrin and Arie Luyendyk Jr. on The Bachelor
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19659006] And now, happily engaged in your choice on The Bachelorette Kufrin says she understands better what Luyendyk Jr., 36, has been through during her two-month engagement.
"When we were engaged, I realized how much he was fighting," says Kufrin. "Now that I am in this position and have to make difficult decisions, I can empathize more with him, it is not easy to balance feelings for multiple people, and there is no set of rules to be in that position."
And finally, Kufrin says she would see the season again when she aired (she and Luyendyk Jr. were busy in November), but the season did not begin to air until shortly before her breakup in January), was therapeutic.
"It was enlightening to see that his relationships with all other women play," says Kufrin. "I saw how he really fell in love with Lauren [Burnham, Luyendyk Jr.’s runner-up and now-fiancée] and that helped me to see where his heart was."
Since After the Final Rose: "Aria and I talked a bit," says Kufrin. "I wish him and Lauren all the best."
After all, she believes that everything happened for a reason.
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"Looking back I appreciate that Arie did that when he did," Kufrin says of the breakup. "And as strange as it sounds, I can only thank him because it has allowed me to go on this new journey to find the person who suits much better!"
The Bachelorette celebrates premiere on Monday at 8 pm on ABC.