After Bekah Martinez confessed to Arie Luyendyk Jr.'s bachelor season, she has a lot of opinions about the franchise, and she pours everything to the hustle and bustle. Read what Bekah has to say about the dates of the Fantasy Suite and the dissolution of the Bachelor Nation this week.
It's the week of the fantasy suite, and of course there was a lot of drama!
I have to say that I loved the location in Thailand because Becca's stylist did not put her in glittering black or metallic gunmetal outfits all week. It was a nice break.
First, Blake's Date. I love him, we all love him, he is great. They are great together. The first part of the date was around the Buddhist temple, and the rule for no physical affection was actually a little refreshing. I like to see the couples just chatting and enjoying their time without all the tongue action, even though the Lord knows I would do the same thing.
Blake has become even more attractive with each passing week. At first, I did not think he was so cute, but that all changed after he saw his vulnerability, how straightforward and candid he is, and his sincere worship of Becca. Plus, it was not disappointing to see him in his shirtless shirt in the morning.
Blake's and Becca's date took a melancholy turn. When Blake expressed his fears of being deeply hurt, Becca seemed so sad to know that those fears could become his reality. It must be so difficult to know that for every moment that their relationship becomes stronger, the potential for greater heartbreak increases. The same is true for any other relationship, but Blake's vocalization of the situation made it all too real. Becca tried her best to comfort him and explain how she felt when she was in the same position with Arie, but it did not seem reassuring, considering how that situation worked.
It was kind of funny too, as Becca said Blake seemed "in his head" the next morning. Well, obviously he's in his head ̵
I'm going to jump to Garrett for a minute. This is the first week his personality really seemed to shine, though I'm still confused as to what's going on in his head and heart most of the time. I think I said it before, but I just do not understand Garrett. It's hard to read, and I feel I miss something Becca sees. What I can see is Becca's love for him. There is a tenderness in her voice when she speaks about him, and a soft gentleness in her interactions. It is peaceful, and there is no doubt that he would remain a solid presence in Becca's life if their relationship continues. I like his inability to be influenced by external circumstances. Garrett has remained constant and simple in his love for Becca, which is perhaps exactly what she needs.
We return to this week's love sacrifice: Jason. Jason and Becca's relationship has always felt a bit superficial to me. There is a distance that is only seemingly bridged by physical attraction, and while the chemistry is great, it can not fuel the fire forever.
Again, I felt so bad for Becca when she collapsed a little during the day because I recognized that feeling – the feeling of knowing it's over and the fear of knowing that you have to be the one to get it to end. It's terrible to break up with someone you care about. I think it's quite possible to love someone, but he knows he's not right for you, and it's one of the worst feelings in the world. It's never easy to hurt someone around you even if you know it's better to do it sooner than to wait. This (first) breakup was tough, but more for Becca than for Jason.
It's hard. Most of us women are so damn sensitive. We are always concerned about hurting people and experience painful guilt feelings when we break someone's heart, because we know what it feels like when we are heartbroken. In this case, it would seem that Becca had a lot harder than Jason. Maybe it was not so much about Jason, but because she knew that this was a little taste of the coming week when she had to part with one of the men she was truly in love with.
Sure, just eight weeks, but if you've ever been in a whirlwind romance before, you know that after a two-month relationship, it can still be devastating to be abandoned. That being said, Bachelor and Bachelorette relationships are removed from the "real life". When a candidate goes home, they are taken back to a world that has no tangible ties to their ex-partner a short visit to their hometown. Maybe it's just me, but I think one of the hardest parts of a breakup is that you always feel reminded of your ex in everyday life. There are usually so many memories tied to your daily routine and daily environment. In a sense, the fact that Bachelor and Bachelorette romances are completely removed from your homeworld may make dealing with the loss a little easier.
As for Jason's return, I have the unpopular view that it is inconspicuous. Becca realized for the first time that it was really over, and she did not need to justify him for wanting to end it. The second separation seemed to him to his own advantage, and although some cite the album in his defense, it seemed a barely veiled effort to present themselves as future bachelor material. Also, (I know I'm so tough on the poor guy) Has anyone else noticed the blinking and facial curling to try to force a tear?
Yes, Jason was friendly and accommodating. But the truth is, to handle a separation by not behaving like a total psycho should be the basic minimum. Jason seems to be very nice and he means well, but I think we should all be on the same level when it comes to being unloaded. Dumpes around the world should realize it's probably not their fault, it's probably only because their partner does not feel the same way as before. When I broke up with him, I had an ex-husband: "Well, you can not help who you love and who you no longer like."