Take the pen off! Writing a thank-you letter to BOTH makes BOTH people feel better
- Researchers asked participants to write a thank-you letter to someone
- Writers overestimated how clumsy recipients would feel about the gesture and underestimated how surprised and the recipients felt positive
Mark Prigg for Dailymail.com
Writing letters may be a dying art, but researchers say someone writes a thank-you letter that makes both parties feel better.
Researchers at the University of Texas at Austin asked participants in three different experiments to write a letter thanks to someone who did something nice for them and then anticipated the recipient's reaction.
In each experiment, the writers overestimated how awkwardly the recipients would feel about the gesture and underestimated how surprised and positive the recipients felt.
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Texas researchers found out writers overestimated how awkward recipients would feel about the gesture and underestimated how surprised and positive the recipients felt
The researchers say what is meaningful about the research and its results are that thank-you letters and letters of thanks should be written and sent
"What we have seen is that it only takes a few minutes to write such letters, nachdenklic hey and sincere, "said Kumar.
"It comes with little cost, but the benefits are greater than people expect."
Kumar says that being afraid of what to say or fear that their gesture is misinterpreted will make many people shy away from expressing sincere gratitude.
In one experiment, they asked the practitioners to acknowledge their own ability to thank with questions as to whether the recipients would judge the letter as warm and sincere.
"We have found that practitioners can overly worry about how they express their gratitude – their ability to articulate the words" just right "- while the recipients are more focused on warmth and positive intent "We think about ourselves, tend to think about how competent we are – we'll talk about how we express our gratitude," says Kumar.
This view could be a " Unfounded barrier "for gratitude is more commonplace in daily life, say the researchers.
" Researchers have known for 15 years that gratitude enhances well-being. "
" There's been a lot of work done on it. " 19659008] "What was interesting to me is that although it is something that is well known, people are still not so grateful."