LOVE ABBY: My husband and I are expecting a baby in a few months. My dad and his wife asked if we had a large combination of cot, changing table and shelf that they would like to have in an antique shop. I politely declined and explained that there is no room in our small apartment. You have sent it anyway! Now I have to figure out how to get rid of it because it occupies most of our living room. The part can not be returned, does not fit in my car and I still can not lift it. I hope the second-hand store will pick it up.
My questions are: Do I have to thank you for a gift that I specifically requested not to send, and what should I say if you find I have given it away? (they will be angry), and how do I prevent that from happening again? ̵
LOVE UNWANTED: Write a sweet note to your father and stepmother thanking you for your thoughtfulness, and add one or two photos showing them Fill your living room. The next time you talk to them, explain that space is tight and offer to ship it to YOU so that it can be used when visiting the baby. If they agree, you're off hook. If they do not sell or donate.
To prevent it from reoccurring, you can not control what other people are doing. You tried that before and it did not work.
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Dear ABBY: I am an 18 year old man. Many of my best friends are super cool and absolutely great people. They all have one thing in common. They all dye their hair in different unnatural colors like green, purple and even rainbows. I have natural hair but now I feel excluded and I would like to do the same. But I wonder what it feels like to have such hair. Do you have an opinion on this topic or have you already heard of someone else's experience? – HOPING HAIR
LOVE DARK HAIR HOPEFUL: Dyeing your hair in a neon color will attract attention, some of it positive and some negative. It is important if YOU like it and what attention it attracts. You will never know it until you try. It's just hair. If you do not like it, you can color it again in its natural color or cut it off and let it grow out. It's important to remember that hair dyes do not make you cool and startling. They are already these things.
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Dear ABBY, I mentioned to two friends that my best friend was thinking of moving. One of them told the main office of the company where they work. When my best friend found out, she said I cheated on her and she no longer wants to be my girlfriend.
I love and miss her. I tried everything to repair our friendship. She'll say hello when I see her, but she does not call or visit me. What can I do to be back in her good grace? I apologized, but nothing seems to help. Please advise. – NEEDS MY GIRLFRIEND
DEAR NEEDS: If your friend did not warn you that the discussion of her move was IN TRUST, she can only blame herself for getting the word out. Maybe you should remind her. I can not guarantee it will fix your relationship, but if it's the truth, it should hear it.
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