DEAR ABBY: I recently borrowed a power tool from a neighbor. When I tried to use it, it did not work. So I called my neighbor and we tried to fix the problem. To be polite, I said, I'm sorry. He replied, "You could pay for it."
It's a pretty expensive tool, and I definitely have not broken it. It never worked. Am I owing him anything but thanking him? If it was a little under $ 50, I would probably offer to buy a new one to maintain relationships. But in the circumstances … – IT WILL NOT WORK
DEAR DIDN'T WORK: Talk to your neighbor again and repeat what you said. However, this time tells him that your apology was not a guilty confession, but condolences and regrets that you were the bearer of bad news. Then give him some bad news that you do not have to pay for something that you did not break.
LOVE ABBY: A few years ago, I was diagnosed with a rare disease called Wegener's granulomatosis. Because of the effects of this disease, I have a hoarse, scratchy voice and will probably do the rest of my life.
The problem is, I'm constantly being asked by almost everyone I'm talking to, "What's wrong with your voice? "Or:" Do you have a cold? "I am a journalist who is constantly on the phone, so I'll ask that question several times a day. When I tell the truth (it's just the way I'm talking), people feel bad right away, so I usually lie and say, "Yes, I have a cold" or "I have allergies."
My question is What is the best answer? I know people are just worried, but I'm tired of being asked. ̵
LOVE ONLY TIRED: I see no way to prevent people you do not know from asking the question. However, I think that if you do, you should stick to the truth and allow them to have their bad feelings for such a personal question.
DEAR ABBY: My wife and I have recently discovered a nearby Chinese restaurant affordable. The food is delicious. My wife puts up with the styrofoam containers that the restaurant provides for leftovers. She claims that they divert chemicals to the leftovers and are not environmentally friendly.
On our last visit, to my astonishment and dismay, she brought her own glass storage bin into the restaurant. Is it appropriate to bring your own container to restaurants for leftovers? – LEFTOVERS TO GO
LOVE LEFTOVERS: I am shattering my brain and trying to find a reason why it would be inappropriate if the patron does not bother to bring it. In fact, it seems an intelligent, environmentally friendly solution to a crowded landfill problem as long as the restaurant does not object.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.