(CNN) – "No, no food!" said your terrible two-year-old, pushing away the green beans. Well, mind you, this is a vegetable that was swallowed regularly on a regular basis. Soon followed by peaches, pears and another formerly delicious vegetables, which is in the pile "Are you crazy I do not eat this" is laid.
What's going on? More importantly, what do you, the worried parents, do to ensure that your child gets the nutrients it needs to thrive? If you are like many mothers, fathers and grandparents, you will probably start flattering, harassing and begging, or even resorting to a bribe.
Relax! According to a recent study published in the journal Appetite, your toddler will grow well, even if the picky behavior persists.
"Parental pressure has no effect, neither good nor bad, on fussy food or weight in this population," said Drs. Julie Lumeng, a pediatrician from Michigan, is a research professor at the University of Michigan's Center for Growth and Development.
Most of the research on "picky or selective eating," as it is now called, has focused on older children or age mixtures that were predominantly Caucasian in nature and were followed only for a short time. Lumeng followed a group of 244 ethnically diverse 2- and 3-year-olds for over a year comparing their parental pressure tactics with the child's healthy growth and reduced fussy eating habits.
"According to this study, there is no evidence that if you put pressure on your gardening variety, picky eaters will actually make them bigger or better," said Melanie Potock, author of "Adventures in Veggieland," who did not participate in the study was involved.
"It's not new that parents should not pressure their picky kid, but they keep on doing it," adds Ellyn Satter, author of "Child of Mine: Feeding with Love and Good Sense," which also fails involved in this research. "Hopefully, studies like these can help bring the message home."
Why do parents resort to tactics that go beyond eating? Because what a child eats is so closely tied to a parent's sense of responsibility and parenting, Potock
said, "And in my experience, it's often because they're worried about their child's nutritional health," said Potock. For other parents, she said, it could be food waste, "especially for parents who may struggle financially."
"And then some parents are pushing kids to eat, because that's exactly the way they grew up in the record club, right?" Potock adds.
The results of parental intrusiveness, said Los Angeles Pediatrician Tanya Altmann, co-author of "What to Feed Your Baby", are not surprising for those who regularly work with children.
"When parents are too focused on every bite and urge their children to eat, it usually eludes, as infants then refuse, much like potty training," Altmann said.
It is also developmental for children to change their eating habits when they come from infancy, Satter said. In her first year, the novelty of sitting at the table and eating balanced food keeps her eager and willing until suddenly "negative magic happens."
"Something seems to be happening cognitively and now familiar food is unfamiliar and she does not want to eat it," Satter said. "If the parents can stand it, they will be less skeptical of unfamiliar food when they become preschoolers."
Satter created a model of the "division of responsibility" for feeding issues in childhood, which focuses on "recklessly without meals". She recommends that parents cook and serve food themselves to model healthy eating and add one or two items to the menu their child normally eats.
"But do not worry about it and limit the menu to things the child has readily accepted," Satter warns. "And do not force them to eat, let your child choose what and how much it eats from what you put on the table."
Los Angeles head chef and registered nutritionist Beth Saltz, co-author of "What to Feed Your Baby," agrees that parents should stop being the "food police". She suggests having fun with food and low pressure.
"Get together as a family, whatever your family may look like," Saltz said. "Turn off the screens." Koch, "I like positive strategies like these for feeding infants, rather than negative strategies like pressure."
"Children eat better when they receive undivided, positive attention from their parents," Satter said Adding the rule also applies when you go to the takeaway or the restaurant. "However you put together a meal, it's always important to sit together and look out for each other when you eat it."
Potock also works with children with special needs who have intense sensory issues that complicate eating and suggests parents ask their pediatrician if they think a medical problem could affect their child's behavior ,
But she tells all her clients that they want to increase their child's curiosity about new foods.
"I recommend you to give a tablespoon of any new foods, especially foods that the rest of the family eats on the child's plate during meals," Potock said. "But do not force her to eat it, having it on the child's plate is the first step in making friends with this food."
She also suggests talking about how the food is grown, such as green beans and jack and the beanstalk. Better still, said Potock, if possible, grow some vegetables at home and have the child reap and cook. Take your child regularly to the farmers market to see and touch new temptations. She also suggests playing with food, such as beans in a tic-tac-toe game.
"But do not say eat your beans," Potock warned. "They can make a kid eat the beans, but they will not learn to love beans, they will not build that curiosity on their own."
The perfect time to start a healthy eater, experts said a baby starts eating solid food.
"Babies learn taste preferences from a very early age, offering a variety of tastes, textures and even food temperatures," said Potock.
"Choose a healthy first food such as pureed avocado, organic whole yoghurt, pureed green vegetables," says Altmann. "Let your infant lean in and open his mouth when he wants to eat, do not force feed or play airplane games ̵
A great variety, young, added Potock, will help parents survive the picky eater era and hire their child for later success.
"As the child moves through the natural stage of picky food and comes out on the other side," Potock said, "they have been exposed and are friends with many different foods and are ready to try them again."  The-CNN-Wire
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