W It's an ordinary cold work in Kashmir when Adil Ahmad Dar drove his car into an Indian paramilitary convoy and detonated his explosive, killing 40 soldiers and himself in the deadliest attack of the region's 30- year-old insurgency.
Indian paramilitary officers and their families. The attack took place on the busy main highway between the region's two main cities, Srinagar and Jammu. Body parts flew into the garden, where children were playing. Residents were hurt, some broken, as the force of the blast shattered every window in a hamlet by the road.
And on a much greater scale, the suicide bomber could scarcely have thought its actions would bring South Asia closer to the brink of nuclear conflict than at any point in the past two decades.
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After the Pakistan-based jihadist group Jaish-e-Mohammed (JeM) claimed responsibility for what is now known as the Pulwama Bombing, India launched its first airstrikes on Pakistan since 1971. Pakistan has arrived in Pakistan-administered Kashmir.
Pakistan's decision to return the pilot has eased the international community's fears of an imminent. But India does not rule out the strikes on Pakistan, and here in Kashmir, large-scale troop movements and separatist groups show the situation is still far from normal.
At the heart of this crisis read the restive , mostly agricultural region of south Kashmir, which encompasses Pulwama district.
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"I searched everywhere for Adil after he went missing, for more than a month, says Ghulam Hassan Dar, in the interview with The Independent .
"Like any parent, I wanted to ask him to come back. Bringing up a child is so very hard, you spend so much time, a lot of money. I have hoped, like any parent, that he would grow up to be a doctor, or have a profession of some kind. "
In April, the image of the child's worst fears. Glorifying "the blood of the martyr" – and holding two AK-47 rifles.
Dar had joined JeM, an armed Islamist group that seeks
India's investigations into exactly what role JeM played in Preparing for the Pulwama attack, though Kashmiri experts say it is unlikely to cross over into Pakistan himself. 19659103] Watch more
Ghulam Dar says he feels "extremely bad" for the families of the paramilitary officers killed by his son. "I am sorry for the loss of lives, I know how they are feeling,"
But he does not go so far as to say that what Dar did was wrong.  "This is the struggle for freedom [for Kashmir]," he says. "We can not tell them [the militants] that they are on the wrong path." The real villains are the politicians who are playing politics with Kashmir, and this leads to violence.
Asked he believes he is a terrorist, Ghulam Dar says: "I do not care much about what the world is calling him. His own people call him a martyr. We had a funeral for him here, and 20,000, 30,000 people came.
"I am proud of my son. Proud in the sense that whatever he did in joining militant ranks, he did it because of his people. "
The Pakistani government, which launched a limited crackdown on JeM members this week, has demanded proof that JeM's Pakistan infrastructure has a direct hand in the bombing before it can bring any cases to trial.
Media reports in India describe Dar es "radicalized" by JeM and Prime Minister Narendra Modi has credited in a show of his strongman's credentials ahead of an upcoming general election, saying India will not "allow our neighbor to destabilize us." Pakistan's door.
But questions are not really asked. Just 10km from his or her home home.
As a young child, Dar was "very friendly and good with people", a "regular guy" who "never picked a fight with anyone"
He was a ver y dutiful child, ghulam dar says of his son.
"He would not like to be a kid." Whoever was in the family – me, his mother, anybody – he would not do it. "
He performed well in school and at the local, mainstream madrassa and, perhaps just as important in this part of the world, he what a gifted cricketer, captain of the school team. His favorite player was MS Dhoni.
His younger brother, Aarif Ahmad Dar, 18, speaks admirably of Dar's abilities in Quranic studies. He had already memorized eight of the 30 chapters of the Islamic holy book.
Dar's not the most popular boy at school, but nor was he loner, Aarif says. He had one very good friend, a little older, bookish boy named Sameer Ahmad Dar. They're together to join JeM, Dar's family says. Sameer Ahmad is still out somewhere in hiding.
On the day of the bombing, Aarif was out in Srinagar and did not get home until 6.30pm, some three hours after the blast. He arrived to a crowd – of villagers, family members, and security forces everywhere. "I could not believe it was my brother," he says. Dar may have left to join JeM, he adds, but, "I loved him. I still love him. "
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The first came when Dar was 18. He was walking home from school, the family says, and passes through the village when he came upon a clash between local men, throwing stones, and members of the Indian security forces.
Dar was grabbed and accused of being an agitator. As a public punishment, he says, "he was embarrassed – his classmates saw the whole thing",
Some three or four months passed before the second, more serious episode with the Indian CRPF (Central Reserve Police Force). During a protest, Dar's friend was shot before his eyes. Dar himself in the leg.
It was this incident, the family say, that silenced any interest Dar had in pursuing his studies.
"He was still respectful, but he would be angry at times, because he was stinking at home in his spare time what a lot of pain,
The last conversation Ghulam Dar had with his son, just before he disappeared to join JeM, what about, if he was not going on with his studies, Dar needed to start contributing to earn money for the family.
"I told him that he was not able to study, he had better learn a skill, and start earning. We talked about him investing in a commercial rickshaw and getting work – it was Adil's suggestion. "
Captured Indian pilot
Armed Indian security personnel remains guarding the stretch of road where Dar overtook the back of a long CRPF convoy, reportedly more than 2,500 officers, and detonated his explosives, completely destroying one's bus and badly damaging another.
The Ahmed tells The Independent .
He is unable to be more specific because of the booming
Ahmed's brother cuts to the back of his head as a window in the house shattered at once, and his six-year-old son was cut in the face. Their first thought as to what happened? "Doomsday," Ahmed says.
Shahid, 12, says he's in the front garden when the bus blows up on the road above, no more than 30 yards away. He did not fully understand what happened,
Armed officers swarmed the area as soon as the convoy was struck, who got in the air to scare off anyone who came to see what what's going on.
"I told you to go up onto the road," Shahid says. Two weeks later, he says he has not left his home once.
Up above the house, the crater which was formed when the bomb had been detonated, with fresh tarmac, and a large square of yellow spray paint
It is not clear exactly what is being investigated, says Siraj Ahmed, a shopkeeper who was working in his store directly facing the spot on the road where the explosion happened.
The blast destroyed most of his belongings on the street. 24 hours later, he says he was slapped to the ground by a police officer and told to stay away. It's a bad day, a bad day for everyone, "he says.