"We are first and foremost parents, two incredibly wonderful children, and we ask them and our space and our privacy to be respected in this difficult time," the couple said in a statement at the time. "We have always held our relationship privately, and we hope that if we consciously decouple and help, we will be able to continue in the same way."
Shepard mentioned how Paltrow can trigger people, even with, the whole concept of "conscious decoupling," a term she believed was coined in the 1970s.
"It's such a beautiful concept," said Paltrow. "You're staring into a divorce, your worst result."
The actress said she began collecting data on divorce and its impact on the affected children.
The most common "wound" Paltrow discovered was divorce children saying their parents could not get along.
"I just thought," I wonder if there's a way to get around that and get straight to the point where we're friends, and we remember what we loved each other, "she said "We are a family, that's it. So we can pretend we're not and hate each other and drop a kid at the bottom of the driveway and do not come in or try to reinvent it for ourselves. "
Time, Paltrow said, had them big Pain, was worried about their children and felt like a failure because the marriage had not worked out.
"Then there was this whole other layer like the world. Essentially we say," We just want to be nice to each other and try one Family to stay, "she said. "And it was brutal because I already felt I had no skin."
Paltrow said she sometimes feels like she may be a little ahead of time, and it later occurred to her that what she had said was "triggered off many people, the sons and daughters of bitter divorces were or people in the midst of bitter divorce. "
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