BILL EDDY: High-conflict individuals, or persons with these, and I call them HCPs, have four key attributes that make some of them political leaders. They love to blame other people. They are busy with the behavior of other people. There is a lot of all-or-nothing thinking. And for politicians, it's all-or-nothing solutions to problems. They have unmanaged emotions or intense emotions. And they actually shift everything to the emotional side, which gives them strength. But, after all, they have extreme behavior, a behavior that 90% of people would never have, perhaps as many as 99% of people, if they become high-conflict politicians.
People like to be independent. They like to do things in their own way. But when there is a crisis, they follow a leader. So, when a conflicting personality wants to become a leader, it does not have good problem solving skills. And they do not have good leadership skills. So, what happens is, to become a leader, they must cause a crisis or simply say that something is a crisis. And when people identify them with the image of a strong man, the image of a hero, they will follow that person. But wait a minute. There is not really a crisis. And this person is not really a hero. And there is no villain.
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Politicians with high conflict always have a love-hate relationship with the media. And the reason is that they love the attention. But they do not like the interpretation or they do not hate it. And so they want to fight the interpretation. But that helps in the drama, because if they are in conflict – if they say their reporters can not attend my event, only these reporters can, that's more conflict. This is more chaos – more crisis, more fear. And people are scared – um – if I step on those toes, we will not have our reporter there. So it just adds to the drama. The key, however, is that the media is repeating the emotional messages of the high-conflict politician. And that just goes on. And that's what gets into our brain without thinking, like advertising.
Emotional repetition is the key to how high-conflict politicians communicate and inspire each other. They excite their followers. But they also make their opponents angry and ineffective as they become emotionally addictive and fight each other. The parts of our brain that pay the most attention to human emotions are the relationship parts of our brain. And so, emotionally, they can relate to people without really thinking about it. And in many ways, it's a seduction process, just as a scammer would seduce a woman, want her credit card or want to marry her, and then spend her money on the next person. They say all these emotional things. You're wonderful. You're beautiful. You're the best thing that ever happened to me. And high-conflict politicians say they are wonderful. We agree. We are the best for each other. If indeed, everything is calculated.