All Real Housewives Franchises are more fun when women are having fun because it's uplifting and refreshing. On The Real Housewives Of New York there is no such thing today. All friendships are so broken and everyone has so many problems that it's hard to know where to look. In Cartagena, Colombia, this week, some of the women tried to heal their broken relationships without success. In fact, Luann's and Dorinda's speech on alcoholism at RHONY not only caused more drama that was there before they started, but it was also problematic for AF.
Luann and Dorinda are friends, and they were friends before Dorinda arrived on the show. This is important because it is not that their relationship is just for the cameras. That they knew each other before is the reason why it is so daunting to watch as both women curse each other and choose the carotid artery, especially when dealing with such sensitive issues.
This is how it all went: the women are all dining in their nightmarish Colombian holiday when Bethenny and Carole ̵
Both women are shocked and hurt by the other's intimations about their character. Luann essentially called Dorinda an alcoholic, and Dorinda told Luann how she really felt about the arrest in December. Both evaluated and talked about things that really needed supportive discussion. Because they have each made some good points.
If this conversation had been conducted with three fewer cocktails, it would have been much different. RHONY investigated the idea that Dorinda already has an alcohol problem this season. Do you remember that when Bethenny took her to Puerto Rico and she suffered a power outage the night before and was extremely rude to Bethney's charity partners? Bethenny had a real, deep convoy with her the next day.
Here's the thing: As much as drinking is addressed to create drama on the show, it's often a punchline as well. RHONY has also shown that Dorinda gets more and more drunk and screams at everyone (that's what most women say), and they often design it as a joke and give subtitles for their cover-up. But there were some serious consequences of drinking too much. At least for Luann, who apologized for the arrest in December 2017, but is supposed to be back in rehab this summer and will not take part in reunification.
But it's not as if someone had to be arrested or "come out" like some unhealthy relationship with alcohol for the show, perhaps to take a step back from using alcohol as a storyline. Alcoholism and addiction are serious issues that some viewers might be interested in, and the show could handle these moments a little more responsibly.
When everyone was seriously worried about Dorinda's drinking, they had to bring it together when everyone was sober, like Bethenny in Puerto Rico. And Dorinda could just have listened. It's easy to feel assaulted, but if a conversation is "I'm worried about you and I've noticed a few things," that person is probably less likely to call you a felon.
In the midst of the yachts and vacations, Real Housewives of New York had an opportunity to speak seriously about alcohol abuse and dependency, but it finally fell flat.
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