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The reality, said Mr. Awgu, 34, has long been foreign-sounding names do not hang. "The practical effect of this is that no one calls her that," he said. "So they end up with some cut-off name that's somehow anglicised."
The problem for some people, however, is to try hard.
Marwa Balkar, who does humanitarian work, comes from California, but has Circassian heritage. On the first day of a job she once had, she told her manager her name, which is phonetically spoken the way he looks. The manager asked her if she had a different name.
In other cases, Ms. Balkar said these people simply shorten their name or give their nicknames that put them together, like Mars or Mar. "I think it's a combination of physical appearance, strange name and fear, it's wrong utterance. " Ms. Balkar, 25, said why people were reluctant to call her with her real name. What I love is just effort, whether you take it or not. "
During a recent conversation with a radio host, Anand Giridharadas, a writer, said that the host was his Mispronounced names. He finally tried to correct it.
"You know that you all have no problem saying Dostoyevsky and Tchaikovsky," he recalled. The host responded by pointing out that he could pronounce Dostoyevsky and Tchaikovsky because both were famous.
"The reality is that much of this has nothing to do with name, but with whiteness," said Giridharadas, 37. "There are many complicated names of Polish and Russian and Italian and German origin that are second nature to Americans became." The "unusual" names that the Dear Abby refers to are not unique in their complexity, he said. They tend to come from places where people are not white.