Whether you know it or not, you have been plagued.
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What else you need to know about phubbing.
Phubbing makes you feel less connected
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Phubbing can be your spiritual Affect health
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Phubbing is not good for everyone
Of course, the person you hurt is the most injured person. But also the Phubber is affected.
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Phubbing can also damage your reputation. "Phone users are generally seen as less polite and attentive – and poorer conversationalists," says Seppälä.
Perhaps most importantly, phubbing may be a sign of problematic technology use. Many experts regard a device habit as worrying when it begins to disrupt everyday life, and the feeling of typing or scrolling through the phone face-to-face could fit this bill.
"You could miss the critical impact of human moments that really makes up what a human life is," says Seppälä. "It's really scary to replace that with a look at a screen."
But you can stop puttering
If you're a chronic phobber, create and follow strict technology rules, such as during dinner, can help you create new habits, says Seppälä. Other attention-based practices, such as meditation and mindfulness, can also help to re-train your attention ability.
If you are the one who is plagued, Seppälä recommends moving your perspective first. "Be patient and compassionate and take no trouble because they follow an impulse."
However, take the time to calmly explain how you feel through phobing, especially if the person does not do so as disturbed by the behavior as you are. (Research suggests that women and older adults respond more strongly to phubbing than men and adolescents, says Seppälä.)
"Your goal is probably not to rule you out," says Seppälä. "They're looking for a shot, which is probably why they're looking at their phone." Having a meaningful conversation in real life could be just what you both need.